WHICH WOULD YOU PREFER? A SCAR OR A LIFELONG LIABILITY?
Who carries the baby for 9 months?
Who suffers all kinds of symptoms during pregnancy?
Who breastfeeds the child for whatever duration?
Who is more worried, spends time, money and emotions whenever the child is ill?
The role of the woman in all these processes seem to be crystal clear, but I wonder why a mother-in-law would insist that her son’s wife cannot make an informed decision as to how HER own baby should be delivered.
I had a chat with a friend of mine this morning, and we discussed how a baby developed Cerebral Palsy because the in-laws were adamant. She had been in active labor for over 8 hours, and the managing medical/obstetric team had earlier informed her that the best option was surgery, so as to prevent any short/long term compromise to the baby, and she duly agreed. However, her know all, be all and believe all mother-in-law decided against it saying; “we don’t do CS in our family.” So she took her son’s wife to a spiritually certified midwife that can expedite even the most obstructed of labors. If her reason for refusing the procedure was due to a lack of trust in the capability of the health team, it would have been understandable. To summarize this story, the baby finally came out limp after over 18 hours in labor, and she received the beating of her life that had barely begun, because she refused to cry. Fast forward to 5 years and this girl that was supposed to be beautiful and a joy to her parents, has severe learning disabilities, cannot talk, walk and doesn’t look as beautiful as expected.
Which would you prefer? A CS scar or a lifelong liability?
What is the joy of motherhood when your child is born into untold hardship, with permanent disabilities plus all the troubles that exist in this life?